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Feminism Is Not A Dirty Word.

Women’s Inequality


Throughout history, women have always been pushed aside for reasons no one seems to be able to explain. Women have been denied the right to vote, join the workforce, and despite the fact that woman can now vote and work, women are still being denied a voice, just like they have been for centuries. Women in the United States have always had to work twice as hard to get as far ahead as men. Women have been demanding equal rights for themselves in all aspects of their lives for almost as far back as history will allow— in the voting system, in the business world, and even in their own homes. Despite their fight, women are still consistently bombarded by stereotypes through the media, which ultimately reflect them as not being intellectually and/or emotionally equal to men.

            If I were to say the words, “doctor” or “CEO,” what gender would you associate with those titles? It’s highly likely that you associated those titles with a man. What gender would you associated with the titles, “nurse” or “teacher?” The answer is probably female. The average salary for a doctor is $189,000 a year, while the average salary for a nurse is a fraction of that, at $68,450 a year (Greenhaigh). According to clinicaladvisor.com, female nurse practitioners and physician assistants make 87 cents for every dollar their male counterparts earn. There is clearly something wrong with the way women are viewed and compensated in the United States. Women have been fighting for equal rights in every sphere of society for too long now, and women have had enough.

            Women were only given the right to vote in 1920 when Congress ratified the nineteenth amendment. Women were only allowed to join the workforce during the Second World War when the extra help was needed. Even today, women are still viewed as the supplement to men. The fact that women have not been able to do the same jobs and follow the same career paths as men is not the woman’s fault. The point that the various positions listed earlier are automatically associated with a particular gender in one’s mind is not the person’s fault— it is society’s fault. Society does not allow women to do the same jobs as men, it is as simple as that. Employers are a lot less likely to hire a woman who is pregnant or recently married because she will almost definitely go on maternity leave. The United States still has not had a woman President (or Vice President, for that matter). In twenty-two US states, there has not been a woman governor. There has never been a female FBI Director. An enormous difference between 2018 and anytime before the twenty-first century, is that women have had enough. Women are risking more and more to protest for equal pay, equal opportunities, and equal rights.

            More and more, women show that they are fed up with the misogyny that is weaved into society. 2018 began with more than a million total women and their supporters marching for women’s rights. The Women’s March occurred on January 21, the day after President Donald Trump was inaugurated. More than half a million supporters marched in Washington, and more than 250,000 in Chicago.

            According to Facebook, International Women’s Day on March 8th was the number one most talked about moment of the year on the platform. This topped the Super Bowl, all of the award shows during the year, and even the presidential inauguration. Along with this, 500,000 people joined the January 21 Women’s March online event, making it Facebook’s most significant event of 2017.

            Despite women being underrepresented in various leadership positions in the country, women aren’t going down without a fight. In fact, women are rising up the social ladder more and more every year. In the November 8 election of 2017, the Virginia legislature quickly became more inclusive of different types of women. As of 2017, there are two Latinas, an open lesbian, a female refugee from Vietnam, and an openly transgender woman. Several of those who were ousted were white men who had held office for years (Jordan, Tumulty, and Chandler).

            Thankfully, women are making advancements each and every day to be taken more and more realistically in the minds of those who are still quite backward in their way of thinking. With the motivation and perseverance women are exhibiting now, they are quickly becoming unstoppable. No longer are women simply the housewives and mothers that they were thought of for centuries. Women are done being pushed to the side and overlooked. Feminism is not a dirty word, and men (and some women) need to stop treating it as such.

Sources

Greenhaigh, Tom. Gender Wage Gap Facts: What the 2018 Salary Survey Reveals. 17 September 2018. <https://www.clinicaladvisor.com/news/gender-wage-gap-facts-2018-salary-survey/article/796107/&gt;.

Jordan, Mary, Karen Tumulty, and Michael Alison Chandler. A new day for women, Democrats across the nation after Tuesday elections. 8 November 2018. <https://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/politics/ct-election-women-democrats-20171108-story.html&gt;.

Kirivkovich, Alexis, et al. Women in the Workplace 2018. October 2018. <https://www.mckinsey.com/featured-insights/gender-equality/women-in-the-workplace-2018&gt;.

She persisted: 17 moments of women’s empowerment in 2017. 28 December 2017. <https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/ct-year-of-the-woman-20171220-story.html&gt;.

 

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Representation by corporate role, by gender and race in 2018

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Promotion rates by gender

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Employees who have experienced microagressions during the normal course of business

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Employees who have experienced microagressions during the normal course of business

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Representation of women by corporate role 2015-2018

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Holiday Gift Guides!

With the holidays quickly approaching, I figured I’d use this as an opportunity to share a guide to gift giving, from the perspective of someone who is obsessed with… things. Anyone who has been in my room can attest to the fact that I’m definitely a slight hoarder. Let me put my shopping addiction onto you, and share some insight on how to get your loved ones the perfect gift— just in time for Black Friday/ Cyber Monday! Let’s go!

Boyfriends. (or boys who are friends!)

Boyfriends are IMPOSSIBLE to shop for, especially if yours is as simple as mine is… One of my go-to’s is definitely cologne. Calvin Klein’s ck one is an all time fav, and Ralph Lauren’s Polo Ultra Blue is also a goodie. Concert tickets (or tickets of any kind) are an excellent gift because it’s something you both can enjoy! Use my promo code for Seat Geek and get $20 this holiday season! (https://sg.app.link/gxTXaHDBwR?s=copy&p=web). Boys also will love a comfy pair of boxers or socks if you’re looking for something simple that is also super practical. 

Girlfriends. (or girls who are friends!)

Girls can sometimes be tricky, and the perfect gift definitely depends on what kind of girl you’re shopping for. If your gal is more girly, she’d love a nice perfume. You can get a nice sample of different fragrances to give her some variety to pick from. I love philosophy and a great collection is the heart of grace collection. Another all-time favorite of mine is Viva la Juicy. If you’re doing a Secret Santa with some of your besties, some great little gifts for under $25 are here. Lastly, a perfect gift idea for every girl is a monogram necklace. These have been a staple this year, and personally, I think they are the cutest. Get one from Anthropologie here. 

Parents. 

Parents can sometimes be tricky to shop for, especially if your family is like mine and you never really had to shop for a parent because the other parent did it for you and just put your name on it. Getting your parents a gift card for a date night would be a great idea. If they like the movies, try seeing if there is a Movie Tavern near you so they can get dinner and a movie to a film they can enjoy together. 

For mom—

Moms love candles… This is a proven and scientific fact. Getting your mom a candle you think she’ll love and customize it to have a picture of you on it is a beautiful gift. You could also get your mom a nice, new pair of slippers for at home. Ugg has excellent options online.

For dad— 

Dads also love slippers, and getting mom and dad matching ones is pretty much the cutest thing ever. (This also applies to PJs!!)

For you.

If you’re like me, and your all-time mantra is “Treat Yo Self,” then this is where you want to be!! My first ALL. TIME. FAV. are Pura Vida bracelets. Seriously, who doesn’t like a little extra color on their wrists?! Check out my link to get up to 50% off on your purchase. Next, I always feel a little guilty when I treat myself if it isn’t at least a little but necessary… My next recommendation is checking out Hum Nutrition. If you’re an OG, you know I’m a ride or die Hum girl. My go-to is their Hair Sweet Hair gummies and their  Beauty ZZZ (helps TREMENDOUSLY for restless sleepers like me). Sign up today and get $10 free (using my code 13ED34) as well as your personalized guide to all your vitamin needs. Lastly, check out one of my favorite brands Have Some Fun Today. HSFT is a clothing brand that has the cutest stuff, and is dedicated to exactly what it seems– having some fun! I love the energy on their Instagram as well so check that out for some daily inspo!

Shopping can be stressful, especially for people who just seem to have everything. Hopefully, this guide gave you some insight. I do have one last money saving secret… and it’s Honey. Honey is an extension to add to Safari, Chrome, whatever, and by using this link (joinhoney.com/ref/lh6nim1), and pressing download will instantly save money every time you order something online. I’ve had it for almost a year, and its something I regret not having sooner. Honey searches the web and automatically applies coupons for you at checkout. It’s the easiest thing you can do to help yourself save some extra $! And, if you’re a student make sure to check out Student Beans! It’s a similar type of service, except it’s exclusively for students who are pursuing a higher education. Just sign up using your school email, and boom! You’re already saving!

All my love,

Xoxo Chloe 

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how to get sh*t done!

every year everyone says “this year is going to be my year!” and then in mid february, everything pretty much turns to shit. and that’s okay. but why does it have to be that way? why let your resolutions die out and have the same exact year as before? why repeat the year that made prompted you to want to enact change? it is a little too early for new years resolutions, but why does it take a new year for people to want to change? implementing positive change into your everyday life instead of just annually will inevitably create real change in your life. my goal today is to motivate you into being the absolute best version of you, not just in the first few weeks of the year!

the first step in this is to not let politics, the weather, or any other external source of overall shittiness change your attitude. you can’t determine the weather, what the president is up to (u can vote tho lol), or how your professors are treating your class. 10-page paper due in a week? cool, do it. it’s snowing and 10° out and you still have class? great, put on your snow boots and winter coat and get your butt out there! ADAPT! don’t let a bad situation ruin your vibes. shine through those dark clouds and spread some joy while you’re at it!

next, keep up with it! every day wake up and tell yourself it is going to be your best day yet. create goals for yourself and then reach them! tell others what you intend to do for the day to hold yourself accountable if you fail. always strive to be a better person than you are today. be the best you that you have to offer.

another tip i have is to get motivated to learn! learning is something that everyone should take extra time out of their day to do… i started this blog because it is something i am very passionate about, and learning is another thing i feel the same way about. a great tool for learning outside of the classroom is skillshare. skillshare is a website that allows its users to learn pretty much every topic under the sun all for under $10 a month. by using my code here, you can get your first two months for free. some topics they have are business classes, language classes, and social media/marketing classes, among thousands more. i currently am supplementing my learning in Spanish with courses on Skillshare, as well as learning how to kick ass on this blog!

lastly, spread whatever positivity you have to offer. tell loved ones you love them (better yet, show them you love them.) smile at strangers. buy the person behind you’s coffee. tell your teacher you appreciate them. humans are quite simple, and they really do appreciate the little things.

all my love,

xoxo chloe

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a little update + the importance of self-love​

hello everyone! i’m back! 

i apologize for my short hiatus, the adjustment to college was a little rougher than i was anticipating, but things have smoothed out and i’m trying to get back on schedule… i promise. 

for today, i’m here to talk about the importance of self-love/ care. being in a new environment with new people has been a transition i never truly prepared myself for. i grew up an only child, and living with thirteen other girls has been absolutely incredible (suite 220 ily), BUT it definitely has been an adjustment. i was blessed with an awesome roommate, and i’m extremely grateful for her. 

despite the love i have for all of the people i live with, time alone and self-care is still very important. i still journal almost every day whenever i can, and if you know me you know journaling is a godsend for me. its a great way to write down the improvements you’re making, as well as letting go of the negative vibes you may be holding onto. also, its a great way to begin the process of manifesting your goals, which you all know is something i try to incorporate into my life. 

taking time away from school, friends, and any other real responsibilities is a great way to detox from… welllll, life. separating yourself from the rest of the world and focusing on you for an hour or so a couple times a week isn’t going to kill anyone, and i promise it does a lot for your mental state. this could mean working out, doing yoga, reading, listening to a podcast, literally anything that is dedicated to you and you alone. 

something i like to do every day is wake up and remind myself how grateful i am for every blessing in my life. my family, friends, job, education, dogs, etc are all huge parts of my life and i wouldn’t be the person i am today if i didn’t have all of the incredible people and things in my life. waking up every day and starting it with a grateful heart does wonders for the soul. 

smile at strangers. sing in the shower. have a little pep in your step. the world needs your positivity and your smile. but also remember it is okay not to be okay 100% of the time. you all know im a huge advocate of mental health, and i believe wholeheartedly that mental health is more important than anything else going on in your life. be sure to focus on yourself once in a while.

 

all my love, 

xoxo chloe 

 

 

 

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mental health

If you know me, you know I’m a very open person, and I can be pretty nonchalant about subjects that not everyone is so keen to discuss. Part of it is my way of masking the issues I deal with, but another big part of it is my way of making sure people know that there are people who understand what they’re going through. I know there are a lot of people who get uncomfortable when talking about mental health, and I get that. I get that some people are easily triggered, and some people get emotional easier than others. But, I also understand that when I was at my worst, all I needed was someone who could empathize with me and relate to me on a deeper level than just saying something vague and one dimensional.
When you’re battling any sort of mental health issue, it honestly does feel like you’re alone in amongst all of those nasty thoughts circulating in your psyche.
I’m going to begin this by giving an honest summary of everything that I’ve overcome, and of course, issues I’m still working on. I’ve dealt with depression since I was about twelve or thirteen. A lot of my sadness comes from the fact that I was adopted and neglected by my biological parents for years, but some of it also is just chemistry.
When I was at my all-time low, I led a very textbook-depression-life. I was home a lot, with the lights off, not really doing anything. I never felt motivated to do anything, including my schoolwork, and I didn’t apply myself too much. I didn’t feel the need to go out of my way to make friends, and I didn’t have a good relationship with my parents. I pushed away everyone who became too close to me, out of fear that they’d dislike me, hurt me, or abandon me. It was an extremely unhealthy way to live my life, and I never felt fulfilled. I think the biggest thing that I needed was someone who shared the same feelings that I did, and I never really got that. I tried inpatient therapy, outpatient therapy, and I sought support groups. I felt better for the time being, and a lot of it was staged because I just wanted to be released from these programs. But deep down, I never felt “normal.”
I struggled with self-harm for about two years, and I’m proud to say that I haven’t had thoughts of hurting myself in two years. For anyone who also has had their battles with self-harm, you know that this is a huge mountain to overcome and I’m here to tell you its possible.
I’ve also dealt with problems involving “normal” eating patterns. I’m not going to say I had an eating disorder, because I wouldn’t call it that. I never sought help for this the way I so desperately needed help for depression, but I will admit that there have been countless times I’ve told myself I shouldn’t eat or have purged what I did eat. As a teenage girl growing up in the time period where all you see is skinny girls living their best lives, you can’t help but see being thin as a way to be happier. I hate to say that my depression made me want to restrict what I ate, but it totally did. I saw it as a way to become happy, and I can’t even tell you how wrong I was. I was miserable, tired, and hungry.
What worked the most for me is journaling. I know this sounds odd, and a little transparent, but it honestly did help me see growth in the battles I wanted to win. I started writing down my thoughts, feelings, emotions, and daily struggles in 2014. I still do it to this day, and it not only helps to actually write everything down to vent, but it’s also a fantastic feeling to look back and read old entries to see how far I’ve come. It gives you a reliable source of improvement and is something I would recommend to anyone dealing with anything that is holding them back from pretty much anything.
I would also tell anyone who struggles the way I did to pray. Mental illness is a terrible demon to live with, and I would not wish the struggles I’ve overcome on my worst enemy. It’s noteworthy to say that God is always there. Even if you don’t believe in a specific God, it’s still mighty to put your worries, troubles, and demons out into the universe. God gives His toughest battles to His strongest warriors. I live by this quote. Seriously. It helps me provide a reason for why I, of all the people in the world, have this specific hardship. It’s only making me stronger. It’s just helping me grow as a person.
Whether you struggle with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, or anything else that hinders you from living your best life, I can say with full confidence that you are not alone, and you never will be. You will overcome this. You will feel like yourself again. You will be great.
All my love,
XO Chloe.

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manifestation and the law of attraction

preface

you first must understand the logic behind this. none of this is going to make sense to you unless you know the general concept behind both manifestation and the law of attraction. i recommend watching margot lee’s youtube video to understand the background of the loa better.
introduction

there are several general overviews that i want to go over before getting into the bulk of this post. these are the five basic principles behind turning what you want into a reality. they are:
clear your headspace
set your intentions
believe and trust that this intention will happen
make decisions that will lead you to your goal(s)
recognize successful manifestations and practice gratitude
once you fully understand that there are real steps you must take to work for what you want before universe just hands you things you crave, you will begin to realize that your dreams are more attainable than you may believe.
clear your headspace

release your disbelief in your power to be happy, successful, at peace, etc. and make sure you pray for this release! whether it be to God, or the universe, praying and manifesting aren’t really that dissimilar.
stay open for signs from the universe, and show out for the opportunities brought to you.
they aren’t always apparent, and maybe it’s even a seemingly negative thing. there is still a bright side.
make everything an opportunity for growth.
clarity is king when it comes to manifesting your desires — make your intentions clear and call them in.
set your intention

use “i will,” not “i want to.” using affirmative language will only enhance your abilities to make shit happen.
use positive wording; what do you intend vs. what you don’t like about your life.
be unapologetic about what you are trying to achieve.
make a list about things you like about your life and why then add what you don’t necessarily love, but be sure to keep it positive
believe and trust that this intention will happen

speak your intention into existence!
telling others about what you plan to do is making yourself credible for what you do/don’t achieve
believe that your intention is a reality that will come true (or is already true!)
make decisions that will lead you to your goal

don’t be afraid to take risks!
you won’t get anywhere you haven’t already been without putting yourself in new situations.
become open and willing with new experiences.
constantly remind yourself of your goal.
monitor the life of your manifestations.
recognize successful manifestations and practice gratitude

what have you already successfully manifested into your life?
learn from your success.
what path did your demonstrated ideas take to become a reality?
what was easy and what was more difficult?
is this a short term or long term success?
is this a material or spiritual gain, or both?
remember that amazing things do not come out of greed and/or jealousy; they come from a place of gratitude, acceptance, and love.
thank the universe, yourself, and the process of delivering this intention.

xo

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Rainy Days Playlist

Music is my favorite art form. It can be so expressive, and have so much meaning behind it disguised with a catchy beat or an angelic voice. I love sharing my music with others, and I love when others share their music with me as well. I’m creating this series on my blog in order to share some of my monthly favs with all of you, and hopefully put you on to some new grooves.

I’m an Apple Music junkie, but I made Spotify playlists in order to share with all of you. You can find this month’s here. This month is dedicated to rainy days and Sunday vibes, I hope you all enjoy!

    1. white, odd future
    2. wake up, travis scott

 

  1. special affair, the internet
  2. penthouse cloud, the internet
  3. where did i go?, jorja smith
  4. river, leon bridges,
  5. forever always, peter cottontale
  6. where did you sleep last night, nirvana (mtv unplugged)
  7. drama, roy woods ft. drake
  8. garden, sza
  9. honey, kehlani
  10. nights, frank ocean
  11. jungle, drake
  12. the worst, jhené aiko
  13. juke jam, chance the rapper
  14. lens, frank ocean
  15. redbone, childish gambino
  16. pink + white, frank ocean
  17. l$d, a$ap rocky
  18. bleach, brockhampton

All my love,

XO, Chloe